What is love anyway? by Ulyssia Drozd

October 12th, 2007 by Poise Daily Staff Member in ARTICLES Love & Relationships, ARTICLES Issues

Ok, so I KNOW I’m not the only one that’s gone thru some crap in recent months. I’ve been talking to couple after couple single after single and it appears we have some kind of solar/lunar relationship crisis going on right now. Couples are fighting in every aspect of the word, singles are scared to death to make an attempt at a relationship for fear it will fail. What has happened to our generation?

We’re all in our 30’s or close to it and some of us have been hurt so many times before. Others have been hurt just once but really bad. Most of us want that loving, caring, honest, adoring relationship and we want it NOW. We want the 10 years of research all balled up into 10 days, we want that true love and we want it YESTERDAY. The double edge to that sword is that because of the scars in our hearts, some look at attempting a relationship as a waste of time or that we KNOW its not going to work out because none of the others have worked out.

What are we doing to ourselves? Seriously guys, why do we continue to torture ourselves by denying what could turn out to be the most beautiful friendship and relationship of our lives. Why do we continue to compare the last relationship to the present one? I’m not saying we should all just put our guard down and jump into the water HEAD FIRST only to hit the rocks at the bottom and paralyze ourselves from EVER loving again. I’m saying why are we all so hesitant? Why are we all so scared? I too am in the same category as everyone else right now! I DONT have a relationship going on and the last one, PLEASE the last one is better to be FORGOTTEN.

I refuse to let someone take away my dreams; take away my ability to love someone else, to love myself, to feel good about myself, to be happy. I refuse to sit back and watch others make the attempts whether they fail or not; I’m not spectator type person. I’m the person in the action, making things happen, having fun, and living LIFE!

Someone whom I considered a friend told me that my living in all the different cities and states was a sign of instability. I beg to differ! I knew way back when I first moved out of this state at 18 that I didn’t want to be one of those girls who said “I wish I would have taken the chance”. I didn’t want to settle for anyone or anything. I am almost 30 years old, have no children and have enjoyed everything I’ve done and have little to no regrets. Why would be doing the things that people didn’t get to do be considered unstable? It should be viewed as free spirited, adventurous, determined and independent.

So as the last page of this chapter in my life ends and a new one begins, I go forward with all the determination, and willingness to expand my horizons just as strong as I ever have. Being cautious about how much of my heart is exposed, YES, that I will do. Denying the possibility to find that person that “makes you smile like no one else” NO I won’t deny that. If you’re in a relationship whether it’s been good or bad, take the time to look back and remember why you decided to be with that person in the beginning. There’s a reason in all of our hearts why we fell in love with someone. You just have to determine if that person is still inside the person standing in front of you but NEVER give up on love. (Photo Credit: © Beckyabell)

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