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5 Buttons You Can Use to Turn On Desire and Turn Up the Passion by David Christian Solomon
Hot sex doesn’t begin in the bedroom. Someone said it begins in the kitchen. Hot sex actually begins in many places other than the bedroom or the kitchen. Hot sex begins with arousability. Arousability is the feelings and sensations that cause the brain’s sexual circuits to activate and turn on Desire.
Each person’s arousability button is unique. And it is not what you think. Arousability buttons are very non sexual. They create in the person mental and emotional pathways that allow Desire to flow freely. Arousability buttons are formed from a person’s experiences as they grow up. Most of us are not even away of the power of our arousability buttons. But pushing them can create powerful feelings of Desire.
Here are the Passion Buttons you can use to arouse Desire and Passion:
* Passion Button One: Expressions of Appreciation-these are written or spoken genuine expressions of admiration, appreciation, gratitude and thankfulness. A small note hidden in underwear, written on a foggy mirror, or tucked into a shoe, etc.
* Passion Button Two: Tokens of Love-small gifts given just to say “I am thinking about you.” Given for no other reason (no holiday, or occasion “just because”). A packet of gum with a note “Your bubblelicious!”, a piece of their favorite chocolate, a key fob, a cheap little silly toy.
* Passion Button Three: Silent Service-do things for the person with out being asked and without an expectation of a return. This one takes some work at observation. Notice what the person does for you or others then quietly do that for them.
* Passion Button Four: The Times of Your Life-spend quality time together. Do simple things like take a 10 minute walk, star gaze, or just sit in the dark and listen to sounds your hear and see how many you can identity.
* Passion Button Five: Touch-touch in non sexual ways. Hold hands for no reason. Give a neck, back, or foot massage. Scoot close when watching TV or a movie. Touch a shoulder when talking and exchanging information and so on.
Each one of us responds unconsciously and very powerfully to at least one Passion Button. To figure out yours, think about what you do to another person to express love or gratitude. Do you most often speak or write a note? Do you like to give a gift? Do you do things for them? Do you just like to hang out with them? Or do you find yourself giving hugs?
Figuring out your own Passion Button is easy. The challenge is to figure out your partner’s and then push it everyday. If you push their Passion Button consistently, the level of love, desire, passion and hot sex in your relationship will skyrocket.
About the Author: Get more ideas for increasing passion, download my free guide, ‘44 Things Men Like About a Woman When It Comes to SEX!’ here: ‘Your Tips to a Healthy Happy Sex Life Guide’.David Christian Solomon is an independent writer/researcher helping people enjoy healthy happy lives through the use of nutrition, diet, exercise and lifestyle choices.
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by Susan Dunn, Life, Dating and Wellness Coach, EQ
Looking for a rich guy on the Internet? Make sure he likes to listen to music that is Upbeat and Conventional - like country, sound tracks, religious, and pop.
Looking for a hot chick? Avoid the one who likes opera or classical music. (Assuming you define “hot” as “physical attractiveness.”) Looking for trouble? Rock, alternative, and heavy metal.
However, be prepared for that rich guy who likes upbeat and conventional music to also be emotionally unstable, not open to experience, domineering (“social dominance orientation”), conservative, dumb and have low verbal ability. But not depressed!
As we sort of innately know, it turns out that someone’s musical taste is one of the quickest and surest ways to find out what they’re like, sight unseen. It turns out, according to recent papers by Rentfrow and Gosling, two social psychologists, taste in music is the most often discussed topic between people getting to know one another on the Internet, and that we aren’t fools - it’s pretty good at telling you what the person will be like.
They don’t mention compatibility, but for those of us seeking compatibility along with our “love,” I don’t know about you, but when I find a guy who likes the same music I do, to the same degree, I feel like I’ve found a soul-mate.
As opposed to cognitive psychologists, social psychologists haven’t give much attention to the study of music - only 7 key articles on it published between 1965 and 2002 in leading social psych. Journals (out of about 11,000 articles).
Well, our heroes, P. J. Rentfrow and S. D. Gosling set about to remedy this. First they asked people how well they thought a person’s taste in music revealed what they were like, and most lay people said only “hobbies and activities” revealed more. TV, books and movies were way down the list, with TV revealing the least. This held true for what the person thought it revealed about him/herself, and about others.
Then they developed a questionnaire called STOMP (Short Test of Musical Preference) and came up with the following categories of preference:
1. Reflective and Complex (Jazz, blues, classical and folk) 2. Upbeat and Conventional (country, sound tracks, religious and pop) 3. Energetic and Rhythmic (rap, hip/hop, soul and funk, electronica and dance) 4. Intense and Rebellious (rock, alternative and heavy metal)
When they administered STOMP along with personality measures, the results were quite revealing. For instance, Reflective and Complex was positively correlated with openness to experience, self-perceived intelligence, verbal ability, emotional stability, and political liberalism, but negatively correlated with social dominance orientation, political conservatism, wealth and athleticism.
Other categories in the personality profile were physical attractiveness, depression, agreeableness, extraversion, conscientiousness, self-esteem, and so forth. Pretty much covers the whole deal and they found that music preference did, indeed, reveal information about personality differences.
Then, and this is what’s important to us Internet daters - they set about testing to see if the average joe uses this information when getting to know someone. This is kind of a big DOH - I know I do. Don’t you? If you’ve ever lived with someone (like teens, ha ha) you know that their taste in music (and even if they don’t like any music, and you do) can make or break your daily life. After all, political discussions can only go on for so long, but music can be the background fabric of your very life (see Club Vivo Per Lei - I live for music - www.susandunn.cc/vivoperlei.htm )
Well, they paired up folks on an on-line bulletin-board system, both same-sex and opposite-sex. And this is what ’s really amazing. It turned out that while they could talk about anything they thought would acquaint them bets, music was more often discussed than all other activities combined. Hey! We’re smarter than we look! It wasn’t until the 6th week of participation, that the amount of time they spent talking about all other things (ALL OTHER THINGS) equaled their discussion of music.
Were they just talking about what they love, or were they trying to find a match - or is it the same thing?
Not trusting us (ha ha) Rentfrow and Gosling then proceeded to test the accuracy of these perceptions and found they were quite accurate. In sum, it looks like if you aren’t talking about music with the person you’re thinking about pairing up with, you’re missing the major clue to their personality. And it’s my personal interjection here, as a dating coach, that you are also missing a major clue to your compatibility; and as an emotional intelligence coach, a major clue to their emotional intelligence.
So how about “What’s your favorite CD?” instead of “What’s your sign?”
It’s a thought.
About the Author
Susan Dunn, MA, EQ and Dating Coach, www.susandunn.cc, mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc . Susan consults and coaches emotional intelligence and its applications - dating, stress, balance, retirement, career, wellness, success. Email for free ezine.
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by Heartcrossings
I have been observing a phenomenon for a while now. It started with my being invited to more meetings than I care to attend or need to. It comes free with the job description and makes me long to be a programmer left alone to mire in the cesspool of my own code.
Coming back to the meetings. I get bored after the five minutes of these hour long jamborees. With nothing left to do I survey the people seated, talking, gesticulating, making inside jokes that I don’t quite get because of my unfamiliarity with TV sitcoms and Hollywood blockbusters.
It is amazing that almost all humor is derived exclusively from the aforementioned sources. The Indian equivalent would be laughing over Kader Khan histrionics from a popular Bollywood flick. It’s a cultural niche not to mention an acquired taste.
Anyways, my survey took an interesting turn when I started to analyze trends in my random observations. Most of the younger women (from the late twenties to the mid thirties) wore identical diamond solitaries and wedding bands. Different colors of gold an occasional platinum. The diamonds were almost always impressively sized but lacking in all the C’s that count.
Big is beautiful seems to be the mantra. So when hands (left significantly more often than right) gesture from different parts of the conference room, the stones seem to claim “My marriage is the bigger better deal than yours. Proof is my rock is bigger” As an outsider I watch the display with much interest. Since when did marriage turn into a competitive sport ?
The first thing to strike me as interesting was uniformity. Conformism and total lack of imagination. The prescription wedding and engagement ring sets. No one did anything different. Maybe the marriages were pretty similar too but I can’t vouch for that.
Over the years I have also seen that the older women are ring less or may at best sport an engagement ring - here today gone tomorrow. Sometimes going through several different ones in a relatively short period of time.
In general a woman with a ring is imbued with a sense of superiority over one without one. Even an engagement ring does not quite cut it. Even if the rock in question is a stunner. The band and the rock together defines Nirvana - it probably proves indisputable ownership of a man.
I am an outlier in more than one way. I am in the age group that is married and proudly flaunting it, oblivious of the ominous older, ring less fingers all around them. Yet I do not have a wedding ring ; I am not the same color or race. They view me as a cultural anomaly that piques their curiosity but not for long. After a while I turn into the fly on the wall and get a chance to absorb and assimilate.
While in America, I have lived and worked in the South and the North East. The number of divorced southern gentlemen in a random sampling at the work place was fairly high. I remember one instance when five out of the seven men in a group I had gone out to lunch with were without wedding bands. In the North East (in my conservative neck of the woods at least) almost any male in the group is likely to be married.
The real disparity is in the number of older women who are divorced as compared to the older men. These women appear fated to be ring less because the men their age are inevitably balled and chained to another. That is a real pity. These older woman find themselves hitting clubs and bars on a Friday even only to be accosted by freaks who have had too much to drink.
Sometimes, younger girl-friends such as I hear those horror stories on Monday during lunch hour. When they ask me “Why don’t you go out and date ? You are young and attractive - you should be able to find someone easy.” I am left speechless. To explain to them the dynamics of the Indian dating going on mating deal is a task more daunting than I am willing to undertake over a Caesar salad and V8.
Heartcrossings
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